How to Recognise When a Loved One is Struggling with Mental Health

It’s not always easy to see when someone you care about is having a hard time. Mental health challenges can be invisible, and many people do their best to hide their struggles—even from those closest to them. But being able to recognise the signs can make all the difference. At Bien-être Counselling, we believe that awareness and compassion are the first steps toward supporting those we love.

Why It’s Hard to Notice

‍Mental health issues don’t always look the same. Sometimes the signs are subtle—a change in mood, a withdrawal from activities, or a shift in energy. Other times, they may be masked by busyness, humour, or simply a desire not to “burden” others. It’s easy to miss the clues, especially if life feels hectic or if we’re not sure what to look for.

Common Signs Someone May Be Struggling

‍While everyone is different, here are some signs that a friend or family member may be facing mental health challenges:

• Changes in mood: They may seem more irritable, sad, or anxious than usual, or their mood may swing unpredictably.
• Withdrawal: Pulling away from friends, family, or activities they once enjoyed.
• Changes in habits: Noticeable shifts in sleep, appetite, or personal care.
• Loss of interest: A lack of enthusiasm for things that used to bring joy.
• Low energy: Seeming tired, drained, or lacking motivation.
• Difficulty concentrating: Trouble focusing, remembering things, or making decisions.
• Physical complaints: More frequent headaches, stomach aches, or unexplained aches and pains.
• Expressing hopelessness or guilt: Talking about feeling worthless, guilty, or hopeless about the future.

Not everyone will show all these signs, and some may be more subtle than others. Trust your instincts—if something feels “off,” it’s worth paying attention.

What If You’re Not Sure?

‍It’s normal to wonder if you’re reading too much into things or to worry about making your loved one uncomfortable. But often, a gentle check-in can open the door to an honest conversation. You might say:

• “I’ve noticed you seem a bit down lately—how are you really doing?”
• “You haven’t seemed yourself these past few weeks. Is there anything you’d like to talk about?”
• “I care about you and want to support you. If you ever want to talk, I’m here.”

Why Early Recognition Matters

‍Spotting the signs early can help your loved one get the support they need before things get worse. Sometimes, just knowing that someone cares and is paying attention can be a lifeline.

Conclusion

‍Recognising when someone is struggling with their mental health isn’t always easy, but your awareness and compassion can make a real difference. If you notice changes in someone you care about, don’t be afraid to reach out. Even a small gesture of concern can be a powerful first step toward healing.

If you’re worried about a loved one and aren’t sure what to do next, consider seeking guidance from a mental health professional. You’re not alone—and neither are they.

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