How to Support a Loved One Struggling with Mental Health

Watching someone you care about struggle with their mental health can be heartbreaking—and it’s not always easy to know how to help. You might worry about saying the wrong thing, overstepping, or simply not being enough. At Bien-être Counselling, we believe that support, compassion, and presence can make a world of difference. Even small gestures can help a loved one feel seen, valued, and less alone.

Start with Gentle Curiosity and Compassion

‍If you’ve noticed signs that a friend or family member is having a tough time, the first step is to reach out with kindness. Choose a quiet moment, and let them know you care. You might say:

• “I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed yourself lately. How are you really doing?”
• “I care about you, and I’m here if you want to talk.”

Listen without judgment or rushing to give advice. Sometimes, simply having someone who listens is the greatest comfort.

Offer Practical, Non-Judgmental Support

‍Everyone’s needs are different. Ask your loved one what would feel helpful to them. Maybe they need a listening ear, help with daily tasks, or just some company. Avoid minimizing their feelings or telling them to “snap out of it.” Instead, acknowledge their experience:

• “That sounds really tough. I’m here for you.”
• “It’s okay to feel this way—you don’t have to go through it alone.”

Respect Their Pace and Boundaries

‍Healing takes time, and not everyone is ready to open up or seek help right away. Let your loved one set the pace for sharing and be patient if they’re not ready to talk. Continue to check in and remind them that your support isn’t conditional.

Encourage Professional Help—Gently

‍If you’re concerned about their well-being, especially if you notice signs of worsening distress or talk of hopelessness, gently encourage them to reach out to a mental health professional. You might offer to help them find resources or go with them to an appointment. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength—not weakness.

Take Care of Yourself, Too

‍Supporting someone else can be emotionally taxing. Make sure you’re also caring for your own well-being and reaching out for support if you need it. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

When Immediate Help Is Needed

‍If your loved one talks about self-harm or suicide, take it seriously. Stay with them if you can, and seek immediate help by contacting crisis services or going to the nearest emergency room.

Conclusion

‍You don’t have to have all the answers to make a difference. Your presence, patience, and compassion are powerful gifts. By reaching out and offering support, you’re helping to break the stigma around mental health and showing your loved one that they matter.

If you’re ever unsure about how to help, consider seeking advice from a mental health professional. At Bien-être Counselling, we’re here to support both you and your loved ones—every step of the way.

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