Remembrance Day: Honouring, Grieving, and Supporting Mental Health

Every year on November 11, communities across Ontario and Canada pause to remember those who served and sacrificed. Remembrance Day is a time to honour veterans, reflect on the cost of conflict, and express gratitude for peace. But for many, this day also brings up complex emotions—grief, loss, pride, and sometimes pain that lingers long after the ceremonies end.

At Bien-être Counselling, we recognize that remembrance is not just about looking back—it’s about supporting one another in the present. Here’s how you can honour Remembrance Day, navigate grief, and care for your mental health, or support those around you.

Honouring Sacrifice and Service

Remembrance Day is rooted in respect. We honour the courage of veterans, military families, and all who have faced the realities of war and conflict. Attending ceremonies, wearing a poppy, or observing a moment of silence are meaningful ways to show gratitude and keep memories alive.

But honouring also means acknowledging the ongoing impact of trauma, loss, and change. For veterans, first responders, and families, Remembrance Day can resurface difficult memories or feelings. It’s important to recognize that these emotions are valid and deserving of compassion.

Grieving and Remembering—It’s Okay to Feel

Grief is a natural response to loss, and it can look different for everyone. On Remembrance Day, you might feel sadness for loved ones lost, empathy for those still serving, or even survivor’s guilt. Some may experience a resurgence of anxiety, depression, or symptoms of PTSD.

If you’re grieving or struggling:

• Allow yourself to feel what comes up—there’s no “right” way to remember.
• Share stories and memories with others; connection can be healing.
• Create a personal ritual: light a candle, write a letter, or visit a memorial.
• Reach out for support if you need it—counselling, peer groups, or trusted friends.

Supporting Mental Health in the Community

Remembrance Day is also an opportunity to check in on those around us. Veterans, military families, and anyone touched by conflict may find this time difficult. Here’s how you can offer support:

• Listen without judgment if someone wants to talk about their experience.
• Invite others to join you at a ceremony or community event.
• Share mental health resources and encourage seeking help when needed.
• Remind those struggling that they’re not alone—support is available.

Building Resilience and Hope

While Remembrance Day is rooted in honouring the past, it also reminds us of the strength and resilience within our communities. Acts of remembrance can foster hope, inspire gratitude, and encourage us to care for one another—today and every day.

If you or someone you love is struggling with grief, trauma, or mental health challenges, Bien-être Counselling is here to help. We offer compassionate, confidential support in English and French, for individuals, families, and veterans throughout Ontario.